5 Years of Togetherness

Five years of officially signing the deal of togetherness.

Destiny

Seven years ago, I came to Scotland for work. The offer was to move to the UK. At that time, we were in a long-distance relationship (LDR), juggling time zones and video calls.

I asked him, “Would you like to move to the UK if I accept this offer?” He said, “Whatever you want.”

Honestly, I wasn’t too excited about it. I said no. He said no too.

Little did we know that seven years later, we’d be sitting together in the UK, celebrating our 5th wedding anniversary. Life really has a funny way of making plans for you.

The Wedding

💌 We had the simplest wedding ever — a court marriage on a working day.

I went on my lunch break to sign the papers; he came with his manager and team. It was during COVID times, so it was quiet, small, and perfect.

We had lunch at Windmills (in Bangalore!) and then… went right back to work. 😂

People often ask, “Don’t you miss having a big wedding with functions and dancing?” Well, somehow — no. I’ve never liked crowded or noisy weddings. Though I’ll admit… I do love a good lehenga!

No Relationship Tips — Just Real Talk

💬 We never had a “five-year plan.”

Our only plan was to stay happy. The rest? Totally unplanned.

We didn’t plan how or where we’d get married, whether we’d move abroad, who’d cook, or any of that.

I only told him three things:

1 . I love working and want to continue doing so.

2 . I love working, but not under pressure — you’ll have to help run the show.

3 . Savings and expenses? 50-50, always.

And that’s how it’s been. Simple and honest.

The memories aka moment banao

When you don’t plan things, they somehow fall into place most of the time. Now, we’ve started enjoying each other’s interests, and we have our little moments:

1 . our morning tea (where he just gives me company as he don't drink tea)

2 . his morning all YT channels I watch with him

3 . our catching sunsets every day

4 . buying plants together. Where he killed them and I try to revive them.

5 . he loves trains. So, our all trips are around trains and train stations

6 . He knows I hate grocery runs, and I know he loves grocery runs. So, we need to find a mid way for everything.

7 . He has to watch Crime Patrol, all swift-drama/songs, all crime and horror content.

What I’ve Learned

❤️ Every relationship is different. Humans are complex; emotions are even more so.

After five years of marriage, I’ve learned that relationships are much more than cute coffee dates (though those are nice too). To reach the stage where your bond deepens beyond those coffee dates — that’s the real beauty.

Both partners need to be each other’s emotional and financial support (yes, those who says money doesn't matter; trust me they are lieing. Money does matter).

Life isn’t linear; it’s full of ups and downs. And those are the moments that truly test and strengthen your relationship.

"Falling in love is easy, staying in love is the hardest."